你是怎么发现我们并不适合？I mean, I’m curious how u can actually determine such a thing of the future. I'd wan to find out how too, so that I can teach my children how to tell a future between 2 people in an instant 2-months’ time. More esp. so when you know hat the future is full of uncertainties. How can one just jump to conclusions after a mere 2 months, that 2 people aren’t compatible?
2 months is never enough to really know who really gets to stay in your life, esp. when you have more than 60yrs before the end.
Humans do err. And to err is human. Even if it might be a slight difference in personality and/or character, it takes basically is a lil bit more time to understand each other. Understand that we are all born as individuals, that’s because we are all uniquely different. Frankly speaking, finding a right soul mate that one have ideally in mind is like striking that 10million TOTO. What do you think are your chances?
That’s why there are prizes to be claimed even when u got only 4 out of the 6 numbers right.
Of course, there are stubborn ppl who always think of striking that only top prize. Such strong anticipation usually ended up in utter disappointment. And of course, there are normal ppl contented to be claiming a consolation prize. They are happy because 他们懂得知足常乐。I thought you wanted to be normal?
Humans are born with 2 hands. It always takes 2 hands to clap, 2 fingers to snap. The left hand tried it’s very best to understand the right hand, how to coordinate so that they can make the perfect clap.
But there’s only so much 1 hand can do.
Love is all about trust, understanding and respect. That’s probably the reason why I feel u never really opened that door big enough to let him in at all. U doesn’t trust him enough as a soulmate at all, that’s why you’re keeping a lot of things to yourself. U may think that I don’t understand how you feel when I say that. You don trust anyone to tell them anything, and u think that’s just you. 一个从来都没有真正爱过的人，its a no wonder how one can breezily manage to be able to forget everything in such short time.
You thought u opened the door. You never really opened that door at all. Perhaps a sneak peek, the way u open the door to see what offers that salesman is offering this time. and when he so as to mentioned a word u had prejudice against (ie. insurance), u slammed the door shut even without finding out more if its really for u.
Honestly, how many happy couples u see in the streets made u wonder if they are born the way they are, to be meant for each other? Are your parents meant to be together? Mine isn’t.
Love is about a certain level of compromise (give and take) and commitment between 2 willing parties.
There is no such thing as a perfect gentleman or lady in this world.
Most Singaporeans aunties open doors the sneak-peek way, all too often to see if there's any good offers up for grabs, and ended up buying things from a salesman who actually might not be sincere in selling what u actually need. They just buy because they feel like it. Such sales are called impulse buy. How many impulse buys can one afford in a lifetime?
A sincere salesman is like a moonstone in a coalmine.
What are the chances you find a perfect prince Chang-ming who u think suits u best at boon lay?
The good news is, this perfect prince Chang-ming is everywhere. 是可以培养的. If only ur willing to show him how. And you know that you’re more than willing if you love him wholeheartedly.
Give yourself a chance to love wholeheartedly. You deserve it.
But of course, if you don’t love him or her at all in the 1st place, move on and find someone else worthy of your love.
Text quoted from Dr T.K. Anand, PhD in Psychology & Relationships, Uni. NSW.
